Girls, I need your help! Emergency...

[celerystalksme]

What she said x's two!

To the OP... I guess I'm wondering how old you are. In my early 20's... when something like this happened to me... I ran with it. Got swept up in love... and didn't really care about the consequences of how it would affect those around me.

Now, in my 30's... I wouldn't think of such a thing. Love DOES NOT conquer all. It's not a cure-all for any issues or troubles you may have. And I know... from past experiences... if I broke up with someone before... those reasons remain, even if it's years later. I just have forgotten that bad stuff as time has made my memory hazy.

The best thing you can do for her... is to let her go. Don't be nice. Don't give her a thread of hope. Don't talk to her and profess your love. MOVE ON. You screwed up in the past. Don't ruin her future because YOU made a mistake in the past.

The girl is ENGAGED. She fell in love with someone and they have decided to get married. Let her get married in peace without you hanging around going "but I love you!".

Obviously this girl can be dragged back into your tangeled web (based on the message she left you- and she was crying)... and if you give her one glimmer of hope, she will probably ruin what she has with her fiance.

Finally... even though you don't know the other guy... you need to be respectful. Just like no woman should chase after a taken man... no man should chase after a taken woman. You had your shot. It's over. Move on and find someone new.

i'm 32...and i'm definitely not 'running with it'. i'm very much struggling with what to do. i'm very aware of how things could potentially affect many many people...my ex, her fiance, their friends and family...potentially. and me as well, though i'm less concerned about me getting hurt.

i guess though that i feel like i'm the one that's been given a thread of hope. and also...the reasons for the breakup were dumb, so dumb...and nothing to do with our actual relationship, or shouldn't have...

my stomach is a knot at work right now...