Quote Originally Posted by indysteel View Post
I agree with the others that you should move on. In fact, I would suggest that you send her a text cancelling your next conversation. Wish her well and leave it at that.

I think many of us have a certain somebody in our past that we will always wonder about, but IMO, our memories of that person and the relationship are often HIGHLY romanticized. If you and your ex scratch this itch, you could find out that the reality is vastly different and, in the process, tragically hurt yourselves and other people.
What she said x's two!

To the OP... I guess I'm wondering how old you are. In my early 20's... when something like this happened to me... I ran with it. Got swept up in love... and didn't really care about the consequences of how it would affect those around me.

Now, in my 30's... I wouldn't think of such a thing. Love DOES NOT conquer all. It's not a cure-all for any issues or troubles you may have. And I know... from past experiences... if I broke up with someone before... those reasons remain, even if it's years later. I just have forgotten that bad stuff as time has made my memory hazy.

The best thing you can do for her... is to let her go. Don't be nice. Don't give her a thread of hope. Don't talk to her and profess your love. MOVE ON. You screwed up in the past. Don't ruin her future because YOU made a mistake in the past.

The girl is ENGAGED. She fell in love with someone and they have decided to get married. Let her get married in peace without you hanging around going "but I love you!".

Obviously this girl can be dragged back into your tangeled web (based on the message she left you- and she was crying)... and if you give her one glimmer of hope, she will probably ruin what she has with her fiance.

Finally... even though you don't know the other guy... you need to be respectful. Just like no woman should chase after a taken man... no man should chase after a taken woman. You had your shot. It's over. Move on and find someone new.