some of us spend years learning a language and then taking a trip to finally find people like themselves. I can absolutely definitely understand why people might want to hang out in gay bars, or women's cycling forums or exclusive men's clubs where old f@rts can sit around drinking booze and smoking stogies.

TxDoc, I guess you need to go somewhere where YOU are the only one who...
speaks your language, shares your religion, has your skin color, or sexual orientation, and stay there for a week and then you will discover the instant comfort of finding someone LIKE YOURSELF.