This might sound opposite of what I intend to say, but, really, I think the reason we have "gay bars," or "executive" restaurants is that generally, people want to be around people who are like themselves. *Especially* if you belong to a group that is marginalized or objectified in any way. It helps you deal with the crap that you get from others. I know that when I lived in AZ, I certainly was much more active in the Jewish community; I was on the board of the JCC, my kids went to pre school there, and I was a Sunday School teacher at my temple (I know, you can't believe it). It helped, especially in situations with the kids, being asked about X Mas, why they had to miss school for the High Holidays, etc. Strength in numbers. It felt like a safe place, a home.
When I moved back east, I still affiliated with a temple, but I don't feel the need to have to explain myself, my culture to everyone. People here know more about different religions, because there is more of a diversity of them. And, it's not so acceptable to make the kinds of comments I used to hear.
Someone said that we as cyclists, are also classist, etc. Well, cycling is an expensive sport. It doesn't have to be (hence, the Walmart bike), but from what I've seen, most people get "hooked" on the gear. But, I think it's more than that. Since I started cycling, I don't really like being around some of my other friends. They seem so negative when it comes to exercising, getting outside, caring about their body. All I hear is "I can't do what you do." Well, maybe, but you *could* take a walk, use the facilities at that expensive health club you belong to, etc. It just comes down to the fact that I prefer to be around those who are leading the same lifestyle as me. With me, it's cycling, but it could be based on anything.
Well, I am getting off topic. I will end with a funny and related story. About 15 years ago, we went to Burke Mountain, in Vermont. My kids and DH were downhill skiing, and I was waiting for them in the lodge, after doing some x country. As they came in and we were getting our gear together, we heard a man say very loudly, "Why are you staring? What's the matter? You've never seen a Black man skiing before?" Everyone laughed, but it was so true. People were staring at him, because they probably never had seen a Black person skiing...