I try to look at 'defeats' as opportunities to be better in some way. I was feeling really lousy (physically and mentally) after riding only 5 miles with slight inclines. Then I was diagnosed with exercise-induced-asthma and now feel more accomplished because I have the correct medicine that helps me feel better after a ride. And I am praying that it is temporary and will go away with further conditioning. Life is an exercise in learning, don't let the speed bumps keep you down.