Significant Other Personality

[tctrek]

My DH and I are mostly opposites. We met in 1987 when we were both in our mid-thirties and we worked at the same place. He is very laid back, absent-minded, never worries, lives for the moment. I am very intense, a worrier always thinking ahead. We need each other to balance out the weirdness of the other. What do we have in common? We are both opinionated and bossy and when we both are cat lovers.

In 22 years we have never, ever had a fight. It's quite amazing. Even if the intense part of me wants to fight, the laid back part of him won't allow it. So, we just talk through the problem. We are together all the time... we work out together, shop together and most of all ride together. He's truly my soul mate and I don't know what I would do without him.

[tctrek]

My DH and I are mostly opposites. We met in 1987 when we were both in our mid-thirties and we worked at the same place. He is very laid back, absent-minded, never worries, lives for the moment. I am very intense, a worrier always thinking ahead. We need each other to balance out the weirdness of the other. What do we have in common? We are both opinionated and bossy and when we both are cat lovers.

In 22 years we have never, ever had a fight. It's quite amazing. Even if the intense part of me wants to fight, the laid back part of him won't allow it. So, we just talk through the problem. We are together all the time... we work out together, shop together and most of all ride together. He's truly my soul mate and I don't know what I would do without him.

Ooops... forgot about the "commitment" part. We had both been through bad marriages and the "M" word was not in our vocabulary. We dated for a year, lived together for 12 years and have been married for 9 years! I think the commitment was always there, though. You don't need to be married to be committed.

[Crankin]

My husband and i are complementary, mostly the same on everything. He has become more like me .
We've been married for almost 30 years, so it works. We never fight; once in awhile I raise my voice, but I have a shorter fuse. We are both neat freaks, but he's a lot worse than me...
Truthfully, I could be with my husband all of the time. I know it sounds sickening, but it's the way I feel. We do almost everything together, although we have our own separate and very different careers.

[Kalidurga]

Glancing quickly at the title, I thought this was a thread for schizophrenics...

[Pax]

Are you me?

We're not at 20 years yet, still at the "figuring each other out" (about 4 years together). But regardless of that it works well. Fantastic, isn't it?

It really is! My ex and I were very much alike and we ran out of things to talk about at the dinner table after a couple of years, my honey and I still manage to have stimulating conversations daily, even after all these years.

[TxDoc]

Glancing quickly at the title, I thought this was a thread for schizophrenics...

Hee-hee I'm still trying to figure out how this one ended up in 'open topic (cycling related)'...

[kiwibug]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years.. We met when I was 18 and he was 19, in class.. I introduced myself (which is really rare, I'm usually super shy) and we just started sitting together all the time, and then he finally asked me out about 3 months later.

We're alike in a lot of ways, and very different in others. We have a lot of the same priorities in life, which I think is really important. We're both total goofballs at times, which keeps things fun. I'm a lot more short-tempered though, he's a lot more level-headed and patient. He keeps me grounded. He's a lot neater, and I'm a slob that spreads my stuff out everywhere. I'm a lot more athletic than he is, but he still jogs when he has time. I'm hoping he'll get more into cycling later! Right now things are kind of at a weird point, we're both still in university and still figuring out who we want to be.. But so far it's working out really well. We moved in together this past September, and it's been fabulous so far.

It's great to see that there are some couples out there who met around the same age me and my boyfriend met! I like to think that this is the man I'll spend the rest of my life with, but sometimes it seems pretty unlikely.

[Owlie]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We're both in college and had some of the same friends, so we were living on the same floor. It took both of us quite a while to realize that "the like" was reciprocal, and he finally asked me out over spring break, after about two months of slightly awkward conversations and trips to Starbucks.

We're complementary, I'd say. We're similar in a lot of ways--we like similar music, we're completely silly most of the time (keeps things fun), our politics are the same. He's a little more laid back than I am. I don't take crap from people, he's more willing to let things slide. I'm a workaholic, he's not. I'm hoping to go to grad school, he says he's done with school after he graduates. (In fairness, he'll be going into a field where it's easy to be overqualified.) We're both still in college and trying to figure ourselves out, and while we're hoping to stay together after we graduate, one never knows...

[indigoiis]

My DH was a bachelor through his thirties, no serious relationship before me. I was a divorced single mom. He is the quiet man and very neat and organized - a tool guy who can fix or build anything. He loves history and rides a 1982 Colnago. I am a chatterbox and a slob. We both love to read and we love our farm and do just about everything together, so I would consider him my best friend. He is not the best person to take to a party and he is sometimes without words at the dinner table and doesn't always know how to relate to my (also quiet) artist teenager, but he's come a long, long way. I've known him since 1996 when I was still married to the first... we met in a Thomas Hardy book discussion group on AOL. We were all friends and he and I dated a little after the divorce, broke up, dated again, and finally got married in 2006. It was well worth the wait.

[Norse]

My partner and I have been together for 13 years now. We met through a mutual friend who invited us both to a party and told each other about the other person in advance. She was playing matchmaker. We both laughed her off at first but, of course, she was right!

I would have to say that we are complimentary. I am a neat freak and a control freak, she is more "come what may" and "that can wait." It helps keep me balanced. I do not like to yell and prefer logical discussions, she has a quick Irish temper, so I help to keep her balanced. While some of our interests are shared, we have different ones as well. For instance, I love biking while her bike gathers dust and she prefers running or walking. At our core though, we share the same or similar values, have similar beliefs re: what's important in life and we share enough interests to have fun together. She is also my best friend and the first person I want to talk to when something goes wrong, and the first person I want to share good news with. Another key: we make each other laugh, often.