Significant Other Personality

[smilingcat]

I met my partner at a dinner party ooo about 18 years ago. She was going through her divorce and I was going through mine. Needless to say, we had lots of commonality back then. We are best friends to a point its like we are sisters more than anything else. for simplicity sake, we just go along with the term partners.

She's the artsy type and me more of an engineer type. But I can also see things in artsy way too, so I guess I'm borderline bipolar?? Anyway, she keeps me well grounded in a way I need to be. I keep her grounded in a way she needs to be. And I share my house with her. After what we both went through with our respective divorce, we have zero interest in getting married again or for that matter dating again.

I need my best friend to keep the dark cloud away from my head. She has a wonderful way of making me smile. And I bring bit of stability to our lives and an ear for her to talk. We are complementary in areas where we need some balance, not being so far out in the left field, and similar in areas to have connection between the two of us. Her dogs and my cats are our pets as an example.

for nearly twenty years of knowing my partner and living under the same roof for the last 5 years or so, we have gotten along just wonderfully peachy. and that't the truth. Yup she's my family.

The short answer I guess is complementary and similar. Complementary in a sense to fill in the deficit not to mean opposite.

[lph]

Our values and basic outlook on life is very similar, our personalities are complementary. I'm waaaay more easily moved, angered, inspired or brought down, he is very hard to spark and has an inherent dislike of raising his voice. Thank heavens for that. Two of me would have been a disaster. I had to learn to wait and listen, to not override him and let him say his part, and to see how he expresses himself, because he does, it's just not plastered all over his face. He keeps me sane and safe, and I love him to pieces for it

[Mr. Bloom]

Definitely complimentary.

We met while I was dating her freshman roommate. Our first "date" was actually a bizarre event, concocted by her roommate to be near me at a football game, but it really did backfire on her roommate, and two months later Silver and I were a thing, and they weren't roommates anymore...But, that's a thread by itself

I'm a neat freak - she's definitely not, I'm the romantic - she's not, she's creative and artistic - I'm not, she's lean and mean - I'm chubby (albeit less than I used to be), she's competitive - I'm not.

[TrekTheKaty]

Sounds like someone is evaluating their own relationship!

We worked at the same place and were friends. We started dating after his divorce. Our overall personalities are similar--laid back, homebodies. We work in the same field, which helps us sympathize with each others work problems.

However, I'm more likely to spend while he's frugal. I'm the talker, while he's more quiet in public. I'm organized and he likes to go with the flow. I get upset and he's introspective. I used to have a temper, but he doesn't participate so we don't fight :-) He's the slob and I'm the neat freak.

I truly believe our relationship is the best pattern. I know couples who are too much alike (both are spend thrifts) or have nothing in common (they can't sympathize with the other's desires/problems).

I used to run marathons and he even tried jogging around the block, but hated it. Cycling is finally something we both love. However, he's so much faster than me that I can't keep up. I'm extremely competitive and I hate it when he leaves me behind. But we've learned to compromise to keep cycling fun!

[Pax]

My partner and I are polar opposites, except in our values and morals. We've been together almost 20 years and while it took us a long time to figure each other out, at this point in our lives we're quite comfortable together. Our differences now compliment our lives as opposed to interrupting it.

[Grog]

My partner and I are polar opposites, except in our values and morals. We've been together almost 20 years and while it took us a long time to figure each other out, at this point in our lives we're quite comfortable together. Our differences now compliment our lives as opposed to interrupting it.

Are you me?

We're not at 20 years yet, still at the "figuring each other out" (about 4 years together). But regardless of that it works well. Fantastic, isn't it?

[Aggie_Ama]

My husband and I are very different and very similar. We like the same things, at different intensities. He likes to camp in the cold, I like it mild. He likes to ride hard, I love to meander. He hates running, I love it for stress release. We disagree on some politics. We like the same music. I have a short fuse, he likes to keep it in and is more introverted. We are both relatively shy and have very dry senses of humor. We are both fiercely loyal and very close to our families. We are also both incredibly stubborn. I am a spender, he is frugal. I am a hopeless romantic, he procrastinates so he usually just gets a card but when he does something romantic he hits it out of the park. I am organized but not a neat organized, he is scatterbrained.

I don't remember meeting him. We both bowled a lot, I was the cute girl he didn't want to really have anything to do with because of my temper and very competitive nature on the lanes. But eventually he wanted a date so he asked me out. I was 16, he was 17. We fought hard to make it through long distance (twice, once married!) and through the growing pains of college. We married when he had just turned 23, I was 22 and fresh out of college. He took two more years to finish up. We have been married almost six years and things change but we seem to ebb and flow together.

[teigyr]

My partner and I are polar opposites, except in our values and morals. We've been together almost 20 years and while it took us a long time to figure each other out, at this point in our lives we're quite comfortable together. Our differences now compliment our lives as opposed to interrupting it.

But I think values and morals (along with shared vision) are the most important things. Once you get past the "ohmygosh you like sushi? I LOOOOVE sushi, it must be fate!" stage of your life, you realize that all sorts of things change but who you are as a person, doesn't. The little stuff beyond that, as long as you can live with it, is great. Differences ensure life is never boring!

DH and I have the same core values, we place the same importance on our relationship, and we enjoy spending time together. While the little things (I can be oblivious about things not being in their right place and he is more of a lean manufacture/engineer type person) make life interesting, we balance each other and learn from each other. Like some others here, we do most everything together. He even went wedding gown shopping with me and helped me choose it...and I daresay that is a faux pas

Oddly enough, we've never been in a fight. We've had disagreements and there are times we feel the need to express our opinions (sometimes strongly), we can do that and then go on with greater understanding about each other.

[surgtech1956]

My partner and I have been together 13 years. We met at work. We made the committment after a year of dating. She is the artsy type, quiet type, muscially inclined. I am more outgoing, technically minded, not artsy. I would say we are more alike, we enjoy most ofthe same hobbies.

[Ana]

Sounds like someone is evaluating their own relationship!

Almost: I'm reflecting on relationships in general. I love hearing about other people's lives and how they came to find their place in the world

I am currently single (and loving it) but am approaching the age when many of my friends and colleagues my age are getting engaged and married.