What you describe is a very warped view of feminism. And I'm not attributing the ideas to you, only that you're the messenger/you experienced that narrow minded view.

It doesn't mean splitting everything 50/50. That is, of course, preposterous. It does mean that there should be a discussion of who does what and that normal gender roles should not be assumed. In the house I grew up in both my parents worked. My mom cooked and cleaned. My dad mowed the lawn and took out the trash. He also unloaded the dishwasher and did the laundry.

And for the record, I would definitely would unabashedly call myself a feminist. I'm not afraid to say it one bit.