Irulan and lph you said what I wanted to say much more eloquently. When I studied feminist therapy earlier in the year, I realized that there are even large schisms between what different feminist theories purport.
I think a lot of people devalue men, too. My DH cannot stand the way men are shown to be absolutely stupid in much of the media, in particular in regards to care of the home and children. Is he so unusual?
As far as the cycling goes, well, I didn't like getting to work sweaty, with helmet hair, either. But because I care about cycling, I learned to keep hygiene supplies at work, clean up in the sink, and look totally presentable with the clothes I kept in my closet a work. Riding to work was a priority for me, hence I made the effort. I find that even thinking about the effort is the deal killer for a lot of people, both men and women. In my 9 years at my last job, only one other person ever rode.