Dealing with unemployment - anyone else?

[IvonaDestroi]

What! You "feel for her mother"? Why? Do you know either of them IRL? Do you know anything about their relationship? And what on earth does Mother's Day have to do with anything?

Speaking of mothers, my mother always said you cannot judge what goes on in a family because you cannot know the whole truth. That goes double or triple for online interactions.

Pam

No kidding... some people seem to be getting a little bit self righteous on here... keep in mind that you guys don't actually know me as a person. I bet if we sat down to coffee and actully had a human interaction you guys would think a lot differently. Quit being so judgmental, it's the internet for christ's sake!

[IvonaDestroi]

one more thing-

you're all under the impression that I'm not going to pay my bills ever... I do intend on paying them, and most of this hoopla seems to be over that... so I'm just clarifying yes I do intend on paying off the credit card bills ,which are not that high to begin with, and student loans as well, which I do not have to start paying for another half a year or even a full year... (i am looking for a job, remember?)

also there is no need to bring my mother into this. Come on... seriousy?

[jessica47201]

I'm the one who threw out the "selling out" phrase. I said I could have been consider a sell out, because I NEVER thought I would have ended up in the military.

I've been in for 12 years now, and it is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me, besides my husband. I might not agree with everything that my country or government does, but I love my country and I'm willing to protect it from all enemies foreign and domestic.

[jobob]

Good grief, you asked for advice. Sometimes advice might not be to your liking.

Many women here made a genuine effort and wrote you very well-thought out posts with lots of excellent advice. Many have been in similar situations and they shared their experiences, and the hard choices they had to make, with you.

Some of that advice had to do with considering relying on parents, if at possible, ever so briefly.

Also, you never made it clear in your OP that you had any intention of paying off those bills. That's the impression I took from your OP, anyhow.

You're right, most of us don't know you, so the advice here was somewhat generic, based on the information you had provided.

Whether you take any of the advice given to you here, or don't, is entirely up to you.

[IvonaDestroi]

Good grief, you asked for advice. Sometimes advice might not be to your liking.

Many women here made a genuine effort and wrote you very well-thought out posts with lots of excellent advice. Many have been in similar situations and they shared their experiences, and the hard choices they had to make, with you.

Some of that advice had to do with considering relying on parents, if at possible, ever so briefly.

Also, you never made it clear in your OP that you had any intention of paying off those bills. That's the impression I took from your OP, anyhow.

You're right, most of us don't know you, so the advice here was somewhat generic, based on the information you had provided.

Whether you take any of the advice given to you here, or don't, is entirely up to you.

you're right, and i have gotten some good very advice out of it... however the viciousness is really not helpful to any of us! There's no need to be rude!

Thank you to those of you who spent so much time typing up good advice and inspiring stories (without batting me down like a mosquito), it's so very appreciated. I've actually thought about quite a few of those things a lot lately, and it really does help!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

you're right, and i have gotten some good very advice out of it... however the viciousness is really not helpful to any of us! There's no need to be rude!

No one has been vicious or rude as far as I can see.
We've been assertive and frank about clarifying in no uncertain terms exactly what we are and who we aren't and how we got here, in an attempt to show you how we dealt with similar hardships in our own lives. Exasperation, assertiveness, maybe, but I have not seen rudeness or viciousness. Everyone has remained civil when making their points, you included.

[VeloVT]

Hmmm... somebody mentioned Americorps... Americorps doesn't pay very well (from what I've seen, a stipend that is hardly livable, if livable at all -- however, they do provide an education grant at the end, that you could certainly apply to further education and maybe (I don't know, you'd have to check it out) apply to education loans. Anyway, something to think about. I'd love to do Americorps actually, I think it's a great program -- the pay seems a bit of an issue to me, but I think it varies from place to place, and in some areas it might be better. I think it would be incredibly rewarding and interesting.

[PamNY]

Bluetree, what a great story you have to tell. To my mind, that's exactly the kind of information that would be useful to a young person (or any person!).

Pam