Dealing with unemployment - anyone else?

[shootingstar]

I might have the same bk. as you indigois by Child.

She married a government diplomat..or at least a well-paid government employee that promoted the U.S. culture overseas and that time in Europe, just after the war. Fortunately they stationed themselves in France where Julia was able to discover her love of French cuisine and learn its art of cooking. Had her hubby was stationed in Germany just the war, her fabled life wouldn't have been great, since Germany was rebuilding itself and under the oversight of the U.S.

There are still many women who are still looking subconsciously for a life partner with an healthy salary to bail them out or at least support them.

However...I'm seeing the reverse now on a totally different forum for women in their boomer years and up: women who have earned and acquired their own property assets and savings (or they have inherited as an only child) but they are now extremely careful when assessing the next guy in their life who will not fritter away their savings irresponsibly, ..so they will not be left homeless and without means to provide for themselves/herself later on in life when they/herself will need help in many ways...which will require money. Making decisions long-term for the latter, does demand self-discipline.

Frankly I'm sincerely surprised by some of the advice on staying to get a graduate degree/more education when a person already has a sizable debt to pay off. And I've never understood much how many college/university students with a large debt can still go off vacationing in Europe/Asia or go vacationing in the Carribbean, etc. during spring break. My very first trip outside of Canada (to Greece) was 4 years after I finished university and had accumulated enough savings from jobs. However prior to that, I didn't feel totally deficient of a different cultural perpsective/feeling like a hillbilly...it does help to grow up in bicultural/bilingual family environment.


If Ivona doesn't care about our opinion, that's ok. But I feel for her mother...and with Mother's Day coming up....this is the one woman who has sacrificed for Ivona from babyhood up.

As an aunt, even at my highest earning power in the past, I couldn't have given such a gift of that value (that Ivona's aunt offered) to any niece or nephew. If that's going to happen, it'll be after I'm long gone.