Would you hold a wedding shower for yourself?

[ny biker]

WOW. What a story.

Does anyone wonder why we really have showers anyway? I mean, I don't know about you guys, but it seems like most of my friends get married after having lived together and having been out of college for long enough to collect enough nesting gear anyway.

I mean, isn't that what its all about? If you're just starting out and have nothing then YES a shower is a good idea. Otherwise, why bother? They are stuffy and generally you end up w/ uncomfortable situations. Like at mine when I didn't remember the names of all of my mom's extended circle of friends. I agree that the most meaningful stuff was the stuff NOT on the registry.

Ever thought of having some kind of "tea"? Afternoon...named with the older crowd in mind they wouldn't automatically assume it was just a party and opt out. Just a thought.

I agree.

It would have been great if someone had thrown a college graduation shower for me.

[Possegal]

My friends threw a graduate school one for me. I was moving 800 miles away, didn't have much of anything. I got a toaster and a can opener and other typical bridal shower stuff. It was very helpful! So you see how I owe them all, and will have to throw the 'come get your parka' party.

[SadieKate]

But more to the topic of hosting your own bridal shower - what if you don't have friends/family living near you? Or you have friends, but they are not so close to you?

Since when has there been a requirement for a shower?

I thought marriage was about the union of two people, not the best events to grab schwag.