Quote Originally Posted by Possegal View Post
If I were getting married I believe I'd have to throw a "come get your parka cause hell must be freezing over" party. But that's just cause I'm quite unlucky at love.
Bwahahaha! Are there any of those ice hotels in the US? Because that would be the place to have it!

I don't get the whole five hundred friggin parties thing. I had enough stress going on without worrying about a bridal shower and to me it seemed greedy. If you want to get us a wedding present, cool. I wasn't even figuring on that because our friends/family/etc were so scattered that most didn't even know my mom or matron of honor to get the details. Of course if they knew us at all they'd know we were registered at Target (cuz we love cheap plastic stuff!), Sportsman's Warehouse (natch') and Home Depot (totally normal right?).

Just because these parties are traditional doesn't mean you've got to have them all. Perhaps focusing on showing some appreciation for her feuding bridesmaids by planning a nice luncheon for them might be a better use of her energy. From what's been said about her, perhaps she's why they're spatting.

And gifts for an engagement party? Maybe from your parents, but that's it. Perhaps a copy of the Anti-Bride's Etiquette Guide:

http://www.amazon.com/Anti-Bride-Eti...9068937&sr=8-1

Our plan was have a big BBQ out at Lake Billy Chinook with our friends instead of bachelor/bachelorette parties. I mean, why did he need the strip club when he's marrying a former stripper? What we really cared about was the awesome party we were calling our wedding. We just wanted to get married, and have a great day with our friends. Of course I think that having planned to walk down a the aisle with my horse (on my friend's ranchette facing the mountains), guests seated on hay bails with my dogs as flower girl and ring bearer says I'm a bit more laid back.