Would you hold a wedding shower for yourself?

[Fujichants]

Great post indysteel!

My friend who is getting married is 24. I have no idea why she would need Tiffany's and Williams Sonoma (although I love that store)...but that is a whole other topic.

She actually approached a mutual best friend who is currently unemployed and ASKED her to get one of the items on her Tiffany's registry because there are only 5,000 pieces left of it in the world and she doesn't want anybody else snatching it up. Her reasoning? She will buy us nice gifts for our bridal showers and weddings as well. Um...who said i'm going to have a wedding in the future?

Definitely a bridezilla! Sometimes I want to shake her and ask her where my friend is.

But more to the topic of hosting your own bridal shower - what if you don't have friends/family living near you? Or you have friends, but they are not so close to you?

[GLC1968]

But more to the topic of hosting your own bridal shower - what if you don't have friends/family living near you? Or you have friends, but they are not so close to you?

I had this. All of my female friends were far away (plane ride, far), including my tiny wedding party...and the only person close to me besides guy friends was my mom. While it would have been horribly wrong for my mom to host the shower, we hope it was ok that my matron of honor hosted it at my mom's house.

We probably broke some rules, but my mom did everything she could to stay out of it outside of cleaning the house and providing driving directions. It was an odd shower though with everyone close to me being so far away. I had only one of my friends there (my MOH) and the rest of the girls my age were actually wives and girlfriends of my guy friends who lived in the area whom I barely knew (oh, and my personal trainer - with whom I was just developing a good friendship with...). I didn't even have any relatives there except for my mom. Weird, huh?

[Grog]

But more to the topic of hosting your own bridal shower - what if you don't have friends/family living near you? Or you have friends, but they are not so close to you?

I am 5,000 km away from "home" (whatever that means now). Some relatives-in-law(-to-be) threw a shower for me before my wedding. I thought it was very nice. I had a few local friends that I invited but my mother, sister-in-law (at "home") and close friends could not attend of course. They wouldn't have known what to do there though, I'm afraid, we're not big on showers. But it was a very nice touch on their part, and meant to make me feel welcome in the family. I am thankful for that (in general, not specifically the shower).

[Bron]

Is a wedding shower instead of a hen party?

I'll have to be the ignorant Brit here because I have no idea what they are - the sorts of presents that people setting up a home need are what we would give as wedding presents over here.

[papaver]

Of all my friends I'm the only one who got married. Guess I'm lucky.

I wouldn't spend that much money on a friends wedding. It's not the amount of money that shows how much you love them.

I have some savings for my brothers kids when they get married, but that's different.

I just would ignore the gift lists and buy them whatever I want to buy them.

[Irulan]

For me the point IF I am going to give a gift is something meaningful. I have a ceramic wall clock in my kitchen that was a wedding gift from some dear friends. I am sure they didn't spend over $25 25 years ago. It's beautiful, keeps the time, and it's always in the back of my mind who gave it to me with good thoughts.

Then there's the silverplate chafing dish up in the cupboard above the fridge, can't even remember which relative that came from.

[SadieKate]

But more to the topic of hosting your own bridal shower - what if you don't have friends/family living near you? Or you have friends, but they are not so close to you?

Since when has there been a requirement for a shower?

I thought marriage was about the union of two people, not the best events to grab schwag.