Facebook-delisting, changing status

[lph]

yeah, I thought that article was pretty high-strung too. Just because Facebook calls them "friends" doesn't mean that everybody you connect to are close friends. You decide who you want to be in touch with and what to share, that should be pretty obvious. And the "vulture" in the story sounded to me just like one persons colleague finding a new good friend. Which can be a little painful if you're left out, but not necessarily a mean or boorish thing.

But Facebook does raise all sorts of funny issues. I used to have a really close friend 15-20 years ago. We grew apart about 10 years ago, and I don't really have any need to keep in touch. She was rather judgmental about the way I chose to live, and I doubt that that has changed. She asked to "friend" me a year ago, and I scarcely felt I could say no. I'm mildly curious about her life, and don't mind sharing a little of mine, but now she's started asking if we should "do" this or that together. Not quite sure about how outright I want to be in telling her that I don't want to...

For people you have a clearly defined relationship with, Facebook is great. It's more the general problem with the internet and communicating by writing, it's a whole nother ball game from face-to-face relationships.

[Mr. Bloom]

yeah, I thought that article was pretty high-strung too.

lph +1

Social networking like Facebook makes it easier than ever to behave like a boor. The number of people feeling used and bruised is rising as social transgressions become part of the norm online.
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And this is different from life in what way?

[Pax]

I had a Facebook account for about three weeks, I signed up to see the pictures that were taken during a scuba expo I attended. Very quickly I had old acquaintances popping out of the woodwork asking to "friend" me, many of them wanting to get together or see if I'm attending our high school reunion, I just wanted to look at the pictures and had no idea it would make things like my personal email available to strangers.

I learned I could change my security settings but it was too little too late, I deactivated the account and am changing my email account.

[Cataboo]

One thing people should do is never use their real email addresses (other than for friends & family). Create a gmail account or 4, and set it to auto-forward anything sent to that account to your real email account.

If you need to start a facebook account, buy something, or whatever - give them the gmail account address.

When you start getting spam or something to that gmail account or annoying people, you can then delete that gmail account or cancel the autoforwarding so you don't have to deal with it.

If you pay the $20 a year or whatever for a pay yahoo email account, they then give you 2 email address, and a bunch of throw away email address - I can generate an unlimited # of email addresses that go to my yahoo account, that I can email out with, and that I can delete when they get too much spam.

Yes, it's complicated - but my "real" yahoo email account I've been using for over 10 years now. It would be a huge pain in my neck to have to change that email address or get the information off of it.

[ny biker]

Lance has a son and two daughters, not 3 boys, and I'm pretty sure his house is off the beaten path, so it' probably not within walking or riding distance of their school(s). Not to mention, he can't ride his bike right now. Anyway.

Most of the people on my facebook friends list are adults over 30. However I have 3 teenagers - my 17-year-old nephew, my cousin's 16 year old girl, and my other cousin's son who I think is 14. I wasn't sure about inviting the cousins' kids to be friends, because I figured they probably wouldn't be interested in having a grownup like me reading their stuff, but one of their mother's asked me about it so I friended them. So far it's been interesting. The 16-year-old girl uses lots of texting abbreviations, so I don't understand most of what she's saying. The 14-year-old mostly posts "Bored please text me."

[Irulan]

. I wasn't sure about inviting the cousins' kids to be friends, because I figured they probably wouldn't be interested in having a grownup like me reading their stuff, but one of their mother's asked me about it so I friended them.

My sons ( in college) have let me know that there is actually a facebook group for kids who are creeped out by their parents' friends "friending" them ( or attempting to, I guess) They told me not to do it in no uncertain terms

[Cataboo]

I know my little brother is creeped out by having the rest of his siblings friending him. I told him how to put us in a separate family group & limit what we see.

I'm definitely not a teenager, but if my Mom was on facebook, I certainly don't want her to friend me.


She saw me instant message my little brother at 2 am last night, and promptly called me to demand that I go to sleep and give me heck for my eratic sleeping schedule.

[ASammy1]

I've been on FB for a while now too and although I've never had a problem with it, I did have problems on myspace.

My now ex-husband had a page dedicated to St. Andrea and had posted pictures of his friends wearing my wedding dress. At this point I was already living in another state. Some of his friends have tried to "friend" me on FB... Friends who I know don't like me, so I've "ignored" them. I've also blocked my ex husband and his baby mama (my ex-best friend) from seeing anything about me.