Quote Originally Posted by Zen View Post
Is this a celebration of two peoples commitment to one another or a celebration of gifts?

You stated that they are both in their forties and have been together for a while. They really don't need anything.
Seriously. I know I've beat this particular horse before in other threads, but I honestly have a problem when women/men/couples of a certain age register for gifts for either the wedding or shower. I understand buying things (within reason) for a young couple or bride, but after a certain point, it just seems inappropriate. I say that as a 39 year old who plans to elope. No shower, no gifts.

I also have a problem with the implicit obligation to buy a shower gift or wedding gift. It really should be treated as optional IMO.

That said, I think it's very nice of you to get them a skillet and your shower gift is just fine.