Unfairly target

[ilima]

That, I will agree with you.

Actually I will go as far to say that I find this thread disturbing and downright disgusting.



Well, that's where you lost me.

It's not rules, it's courtesy.
It's consideration.
It's respect.

You think that's weird?

Well, then maybe you would be happier at another forum.

Who exactly do you think you are to tell me to go to another forum?

Yes, I realize Susan/te provides this forum and others volunteer to be moderators. For that I am grateful.

But I was also under the impression this was a community. A community with fluid boundaries of decorum.

You are exactly the type of "rules" person I find baffling. The type that doesn't realize that rules are never meant to apply to 100% of situations. Rules are meant to apply to the vast majority of situations, but not all. And that's the problem.

Rules folks like yourself think they are black and white "well it says right here" without even trying to logically think about said rule. Sometimes rules need interpretation (hello Supreme Court for an example!).

I like the genial demeanor of this forum. But I have found this thread strange in many ways.

I have always been very happy with the customer service from te and will continue to order from here (although it's been quite a few months). Perhaps I will stick to RBR, though.

[SadieKate]

I like the genial demeanor of this forum. But I have found this thread strange in many ways.

But isn't that the point? It wasn't "genial" of the OP to attack her host. I kinda like the rule that says you don't attack your host unless they are about to commit bodily harm.

I don't know any other specifics about the OP's behavior except what's been posted, but I did witness the lack of courtesy by the OP - and I'm really surprised at the people who seem to think this is acceptable.

[tantrumbean]

I think part of the problem is that there are now (at least) two different issues on this thread that have got mixed up:

One: The commercial selling aspect. This is clearly not allowed and if it has been established for sure that that is what the OP is doing, then obviously TE is totally within their rights to remove those posts. That's clearly covered in the forum guidelines, makes perfect sense and therefore should not really require too much discussion (apart from the fact that the OP's idea to what constitutes a commercial post does not necessarily match admins). I have not seen the posts, but I can see that there might potentially be a grey area.

Point 2 is the discussion if this should have been discussed publicly on the forum or not. Now that both admin and the op have stated what happened, it's pretty clear that there are two different versions of the story. I don't know which one is the right one, but both parties clearly feel they have done what they should have done to sort it out. Which leaves the discussion about should forum members be allowed to take things public when they feel (note the word: "feel") that they have not had the response they feel the issue warrants from admin.

Afaic that is a completely different point and has not necessary anything to do with the OP at all, it's a general issue that could probly apply to lots of situations.

I thinks it's throwing both those issues in the same pot that's caused this discussion to get quite heated and possibly caused members to misunderstand each others responses.

Maybe it would be worth adding a "Feedback" or "TE office" subforum, most forums I know have these, and it might be a good place to post anything from "Could the background colour be changed, I'm struggling to see it", "Anybody else having problems with the forum running slow?" to "Why was I not allowed to sell my puppy on here" and it would possible make some of the decisions taken in the background more transparent and a more public conversation with admin would allow everybody to get their views across.