How much do looks define your self-image?

[Biciclista]

Interesting thread, I teach gender and sexuality studies, so I think about these things frequently to help my students think about them. Yes, society does care and make us care up and we contribute by caring too. But, I actually think humans are less affected by the appearance thing than they think, something else makes them "approve" or "disapprove" of appearances. Not arrogance, but I was "hot" at 20 and am even "hotter" now that I train 10 hours a week for triathlon, but this doesn't help much else in my life, I have to constantly work on my own positive hopeful outlook on life. I live a fairly lonely existence, some very wonderful friends, but no intimacy even though I desire it and great losses in the past. Being cute, pretty, hot, whatever, didn't help in any given moment and still doesn't help, I can hardly get a date....
Didn't mean to sound so down, but wanted to contribute that the looks thing doesn't define a whole lot, a lot of the time.

wow, this took guts to say. I was talking to a gorgeous young woman the other day. She told me she almost never gets asked on dates. (i told my son!!) - that Seattle is considered a cold town, where guys don't try to date gals, to give him a little edge.

I hope you run into a warm and kind soul mate soon.

[polly4711]

1. lph--- you always have great threads/input to say. i completely agree about the if you have a loving family, etc.... then you have succeded in life.
2. I agree with all of the men/women on here.
3. I am 22, my mom already gave me wrinkle cream.... my wrinkles are my smile lines.... darn it.. i got wrinkles because i smiled... isn'nt that a good thing?
4. i've learned that i am who i am.

anyhoo... could go on a long time... better complete homework!