How much do looks define your self-image?

[tulip]

It's admirable to say that the only kind of beauty that matters is on the inside. I like how I am on the inside, but I also like looking good, no question. When I look good, I feel good. I walk with confidence and just feel good about myself. That goes for hair, clothes, makeup, and body. I lost about 20 lbs a few years ago, and have never felt better about myself. I would like to say that I would be just as happy with those 20lbs, but the fact is, I would not, and I did not. I don't want them back.

I work from home and I have to be careful not to slob-out. I don't often wear skirts and heels at home, although sometimes I do, but I do try to look well-put together. Yes, that's even if no one sees me, which happens often. It affects how I work, how I sit, how I talk on the phone. I do wear some makeup, even when I know I won't see anyone.

I haven't started going grey yet (I'm 41, go figure) and I don't know what I will do when that happens. I'll certainly give it a try, like Emmylou Harris. I love her hair. But it might not work for me, I don't know yet.

I'm not obsessed about how people perceive me; it's more about how I perceive me. It has to do with caring for myself.

[Becky]

I'm not obsessed about how people perceive me; it's more about how I perceive me. It has to do with caring for myself.

Great statement, and one that describes my feelings on appearance. I certainly don't qualify as high-maintenance when it comes to appearance, but I feel better when my make up and hair look good, or I'm wearing that special outfit that makes me feel confident. Our office dress code is very casual, jeans and sneakers for most staff, and I'll still go business casual/dress when my job duties that day permit or require it, just for the self-esteem boost that it gives me.

FWIW, I feel more "hot" at almost-30 than I ever did at 18 or 20. I'm fitter (thanks to cycling), more outspoken and self-assured, and finally have a clue about cosmetics and hairstyles. I can't wait to see what 40 brings!

[Aggie_Ama]

Emmylou Harris recently rediscovered the love of riding her bicycle. The djs on the satellite radio are quite taken by her pedaling by.