etiquette question

[SadieKate]

. . . at least now I know I can shop for new shoes.

Now we know the real reason for your anxiety.

[redrhodie]

Now we know the real reason for your anxiety.

Can I wear Keens?

[lph]

Only if they're polished to a high sheen and match your dress

[Blueberry]

Glad it got resolved. I had the same thing happen with a save the date card (won't be abbreviating that one...) - except that I really wasn't invited (no idea why), and fell totally out of contact with the couple for years. And I haven't forgotten who didn't RSVP to my (very small) wedding, either. Or who called to say he was bringing uninvited family (we had ~10 people at our wedding, cut it off at aunts and uncles, except for one....)

CA

[tulip]

Glad it got resolved. I had the same thing happen with a save the date card (won't be abbreviating that one...) - except that I really wasn't invited (no idea why), and fell totally out of contact with the couple for years. And I haven't forgotten who didn't RSVP to my (very small) wedding, either. Or who called to say he was bringing uninvited family (we had ~10 people at our wedding, cut it off at aunts and uncles, except for one....)

CA

Sounds like a wedding announcement (after the fact) would have been a better choice to let you and others who were not invited know about the wedding...oh well.

Is it just me or are Save The Date cards a relatively new concept? I was married in 1993 and I certainly hadn't heard of them (and my friend who is Martha Stewart Jr. would have definitely advised me!). I don't think I'll have to worry about sending any out, but it just seems like a new thing.

[GLC1968]

tulip - they are a relatively new concept. They were originally made popular by destination weddings where the entire wedding (party & guests) would be flying somewhere vacation-y.

We got married in 2003 and even then, many, many people hadn't heard of them. (I got more calls from people asking if that was the invite or in an invite would follow even though the included letter said "invite to follow" ) Oh, and to be clear, we did not send S-T-D's (is that better?) to all our guests, just to those that had to travel by air.

[tulip]

Well, I got married in Paris and everyone came who was invited. We certainly kept the guest list small, though. It was not a destination wedding, it was just where my (now former) DH is from. It was a very nice wedding, though. I highly recommend Paris for a romantic wedding.

[indysteel]

Sorry for the threadjack. Married in Paris? I don't get jealous about much when it comes to weddings, but Paris is my happy place. You mentioned that you lived there. What arrondisement? Did I mention that I'm jealous?

As for the OP's shoes, I vote for red Maryjane Keens.

[Aggie_Ama]

Glad it got resolved. I had the same thing happen with a save the date card (won't be abbreviating that one...) - except that I really wasn't invited (no idea why), and fell totally out of contact with the couple for years. And I haven't forgotten who didn't RSVP to my (very small) wedding, either. Or who called to say he was bringing uninvited family (we had ~10 people at our wedding, cut it off at aunts and uncles, except for one....)

CA

I didn't forget the one who told my new MIL in front of me (THE BRIDE) "I am going to grab a job application, I only came to see if I can get on as a chef at this country club." My husband's cousin who his mother admitted she was hoping wouldn't come! I am sitting there thinking "Good, you can give me $30 for you plate since you are really just here to fish for a job". Her rudeness still runs through my head everytime I see her! Ay-ya-ya. I tell everyone I know to elope.