Marriage: it isn't all roses and rainbows

[Miranda]

Well, let's see... my shrink of years past put it to me like this...

"...everyone deserves therapy... it helps you sort out your problems faster, and in turn feel better sooner... who would really want to feel bad any longer than they had to?".

Like posted, if you don't like one shrink, try another one. The lady I saw last was also a cyclist... she would work out her problems, and mine (along with other clients), on her rides sometimes (it was kinda like she was meant for me).

Some of these ways to find a shrink have been mentioned, but here's my ideas...
1) call work insurance, do you have mental health coverage
2) if no insurance, does your employer offer an EAP plan (employee assistance plan), usually free mental health help regardless of regular benefit status
3) sliding scale mental health clinics
4) colleges/universities psych study departments will have students studying to be shrinks that need patients... their cases are overseen by a real shrink/teacher... and is totally confidential... free last I knew
5) church clergy (even if you don't belong/attend regularly, they are typically willing to help... or guide you to someone that can)
6) ask your medical doctor

OK, on the thoughts of killing yourself. Well, the shrink said that it's not so much we want to end life... but are "stuck" and know no other way out. She herself as a professional even had these thoughts before.

My resolve was always one of two things...
1) if you have any belief in some type of after-life, or the concept of Hell, then I figured killing myself would do nothing but eternalize the BS I was already living... which t'aint no better... sooo, might as well stick it out with some chance of hope
2) journal/list those people and things that your life touches... who would it affect if you were gone... who would miss you? You would really really really be surprised if you thought about it, how long that list can be. Would even people here on TE who you have never met in real life wonder, Hmmm... where's that Tri Girl chick been lately? ...haven't seen any posts from her in a while??? You betcha baby.

Lastly... my endorphine happy rush from pedaling is the best RX ever... it makes me become a "glass half full" person, from a "glass half empty" person--FWIW.

(((hugs)))
Miranda