My Mammaw- Why aren't they invincible?

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Perhaps your mother, being a generation older, has dealt with old age decline and death before. Also, your mother is likely thinking about her own age decline coming up. This can be very sobering. I'm pretty sure if I was 20 years younger when my mother faded out and died, then I would not have been able to handle it as steadily as I was able to 2 years ago. Perhaps your mother is not 'cool' but rather 'steady' in this situation. Remember she has had very different life experiences than you, and more of them. You will be in her position one day, and you'll likely be more able to get through it with more strength then than you are able to now.

It's always so hard to see a loved one slipping away, I'm sorry! Crying is helpful to get us through.

[tulip]

((((Aggie))))

[sundial]

Aggie, you're long overdue for a good cry. You've had so much lately with your doggie and now with your grandmother. We always think they will live forever. It's hard thinking about the loss of a wonderful grandmother when they've been a part of our lives for so long. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

[PamNY]

Aggie, please cry all you want. I got tears in my eyes just reading your post and my grandmother died in 1976. I was 26 years old at the time, but I felt like throwing a three-year-old tantrum. I still do, for that matter.

Don't worry about how your reaction differs from your mom's. As Lisa pointed out, age and life experience affect how we experience these things, and your mother may well be projecting a calm exterior regardless of how she feels inside.

The loss of a loved one is painful and frightening, and illness reminds us that these losses are inevitable. There's just no way around the awful feelings; they are the price we pay for knowing love.

I'm so glad to hear that Mammaw has dodged this bullet, and I hope she is with you for a good long while.

Pam

[Aggie_Ama]

Thank you all. I went to see Mammaw at lunch and feel so much better. Apparently she had an 11 on the stroke scale but since she got to the ER within an hour she was an excellent candidate for the TDA drug. She is now quite alert and we had a great hour long visit. I got the key to her spice cake, promise that she was going to find a book I am coveting from her house and tons of alone time. I will cherish today for sure!

She told me all she wants is for no one to have to take care of her, like a nursing home. She is a spitfire.

I am sure my mom being older helps. She has also dealt with the death of her Dad in 1982 which ripped her apart. I am sure in her own way she is worried sick but what is dwelling on it going to do? I tend to be a drama queen anyway.

My Pawpaw (Dad's father) died of a massive heart attack in 2003. I still am prone to tear up thinking of him and not a day goes by I don't miss him. He had congestive heart failure but I didn't believe he only had 74 years.

I still need to go home, warm bath and a good cry. Too much stress out there.

[wackyjacky1]

I still need to go home, warm bath and a good cry.

That's the ticket. Do what ya gotta do. (((Ama)))

[jesvetmed]

Just wanted to add some positiive thoughts flying your way. I'm glad she is feeling ok and you two got some really good time together. Keep making that time with her... you'll cherish it the rest of your life.
The bath, a glass of wine and a cry sound like your best medicine.