Hi Smurf,

I'm sorry to hear about your friend and what his mom did. So many questions and all still very painful. We all try to move forward in life after such tragedy; but, it is part of us. Our spirit is resilient and we continue on. Remember the good times, remember the sad times and remember the goodness of your friend.

When to give up. I've known only one man who was willing to give up his license. The rest had to have it taken away by the state. My father was a terrible. It was a sad day to have him declared not fit to drive and "force" the state to take away his license. That was like 4 years ago. He still thinks he can drive. My sister and I just can't live the thought of if our father drove and killed an innocent person.

When will I give up? I hope when I still have enough sense to say No more. The trouble with this is though, having seen my father, our judgment is impared so we can't drive. And the same judgement is needed to say no more but its not there. So we say yes I can drive. Kind of catch-22. I hope I can say no while I still have enough sense.

My partner and I don't have any children so we hope we will be living in a place where car isn't needed. Not sure about hauling cat litter and groceries though...

Smilingcat