To ride or not to ride.....

[Blueberry]

That's a tough one.

We can usually talk things out and come to a resolution about what's really upsetting the other one before the event. I think I'd try keeping the lines of communication open. I also think I'd try to listen to the why of what upset him on how you told him you wanted to do the ride. Would not going on the ride help anything (i.e. was there something else planned - I'm shooting in the dark here)? If not, then go.

Good luck to you both!

[silver]

Thanks! these are good insights. I'll try to communcate better.

P.S. nothing else planned. I assumed that he'd gotten the emails during the planning process and never discussed it with him. He doesn't want to go because it will be cold. I'm getting more used to riding in the cold.

[Tokie]

This sounds like something that would happen at my house too. I would talk it over - acknowledge his disappointment and apologize for assuming that he knew and not talking about it sooner. Perhaps plan something special together for another time - (just the two of you ?), commit to being more careful in making plans next time.....and go on your ride! Tokie

[silver]

Thanks again! After an apology and much discussion I went on the ride and it was wonderful. 63 miles at 16.3

[Blueberry]

Yay!!! Glad things worked out!!

(and I didn't mean to imply that you didn't communicate well Just sometimes thing break down)

[silver]

Yay!!! Glad things worked out!!

(and I didn't mean to imply that you didn't communicate well Just sometimes thing break down)

I will confirm that I didn't communicate well! On my ride I asked my friend how he and his wife dealt with issues of planning ride and training time. He said that they have an online calendar that they both use to update. So I set up with with my plans. Mr. can check it anytime. But I will still try to communicate better.

[Blueberry]

We're actually using google calendars to manage our lives - my DH has one for work, a personal one, and a few work related ones (e.g. holidays, paydays). You can view each other's info on your calendar and color code it.

Just a thought

CA