I have a 10 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. We try to instill values, respect, integrity, honesty in everything we do. Won't know if its taking until they get older, but many of their friends don't have solid boundaries for what is right and wrong or appropriate. When they were younger and had friends over - I would sit them down with the other parent present and explain the rules at my house - and that they might be different elsewhere, but these are the rules they are following while at my house. I have to do this at school too. I am an elementary school librarian and I try very hard to encourage the kids to read - especially the boys who lose interest in reading. It seems more time is spent with behavioral issues than actual learning issues these days. The students don't want to take responsibility for their actions and the parents don't either. But I am a different generation than most parents with kids my age - I had my first one at 41......Bekki