Marriage isn't for everyone and it sounds like a lot of your friends shouldn't have gotten married. I believe to be a good racer it take A LOT of time and energy. but since they are fathers and husbands, they need to take care of those responsibilities FIRST. I pity their wives and their kids. They're talking to you, yes, because not only are you a woman, but you're a racer too, and you "understand"
the fact is, you don't have kids so you don't have to divide your time between your passion and your children. They look up to you because you made the right choices. Sounds like they need a kick in the butt so they can make their own good choices. Kids are only little and needy for a little while . Then they grow up. If a person can't be a good parent when their kids need them, what's the point?