Quote Originally Posted by lph View Post
I see your point, Flybye, and I agree that one should try to understand honestly the feelings one has. But to my ears there's a huge difference in the attitude between being unhappy or unsatisfied (but being able or willing to do something about it) and being bored, which implies that that's the way things are and you can't even be bothered to do something about it. I dunno, maybe I'm reading too much into that word. I have the feeling my mother went ballistic when I said I was bored as a child and it's stuck
Yeah, I tend to define 'boredom' the same way. I see being 'bored' in a marriage as very different from being sad or feeling empty, frustrated, unappreciated, etc. To me it implies that they think the spouse has 'failed' at being interesting to them anymore. And maybe we all define boredom slightly differently.
One thing this all made me remember however, is a little story my mother used to tell....apparently when my brother was about 2 1/2 or so, he toddled up to my mother and said glumly "Mommee, I want sum'ping!!" She said that was his way of saying he was bored and wanted 'something' but didn't know exactly what, and she thought that was cute.
Perhaps the real meaning of being bored is that you want sum'ping!
Maybe those guys just need a cookie.