I don't actually care. Business we deal with at home sometimes call me by DH's last name. Other businesses call him by my name. His parents address cards to "Mr. & Mrs. Hisname." It doesn't bother me either way and it doesn't bother him to be called "Mr. Myname" - he'll even refer to himself that way if it helps him communicate with the cable company or whatever, if the account's in my name.

I definitely feel like my last name ties me to my father, which wouldn't necessarily be my choice, but it's the name I grew up with and it's the name I know myself by.