Things that irk...

[sgtiger]

The only mail that I get addressed as Mrs. Hisname is junk mail or invitations to formal functions in which the sender doesn't know my name. I've kept my last name at the insistence of BIAK. He didn't see any reason for me to take his last name. Sometimes not having his last name has caused some inconveniences, so there was a point that I was going to take his last name but he argued that if I did that then he would just take mine. He's impossible that way. I do use his last name for any military paperwork, because their system has a hard time dealing with spouses whose last names don't match. I have no problems being addresses as Mrs. Hislastname at formal functions, and neither does he when he's addressed as Mr. Mylastname.

[gnat23]

Hah! My mom kept her maiden name, and whenever she'd get a call asking for Mr. HerName, she'd get very quiet and say "I'm sorry, he died..."

All the while trying not to bust out laughing.

-- gnat!

[OakLeaf]

I don't actually care. Business we deal with at home sometimes call me by DH's last name. Other businesses call him by my name. His parents address cards to "Mr. & Mrs. Hisname." It doesn't bother me either way and it doesn't bother him to be called "Mr. Myname" - he'll even refer to himself that way if it helps him communicate with the cable company or whatever, if the account's in my name.

I definitely feel like my last name ties me to my father, which wouldn't necessarily be my choice, but it's the name I grew up with and it's the name I know myself by.

[Selkie]

Hah! My mom kept her maiden name, and whenever she'd get a call asking for Mr. HerName, she'd get very quiet and say "I'm sorry, he died..."

All the while trying not to bust out laughing.

-- gnat!

That's great! I'll have to remember that.

My husband has gotten mail addressed to Mr.his first name my last name. So I guess turn about's fair play!