Please help..MIL in town

[Grog]

Since we're talking about MILs..... something I find desperately funny (because it's not my MIL).

I was briefly in touch with ThisWoman recently who's the MIL of a friend of mine, and we're talking about her other son, whom I know as well.

She said: "You know I was very disappointed when my son (ThisGuy) left ThisGirl [another friend of mine], I liked her so much. After that he dated ThisOtherGirl which I liked too, but he left her as well. I've decided that I will never again become attached to a girl my son is involved with, and he'll probably end up with a girl I don't like anyway."

Speak of a positive, flexible, resilient attitude.

I know from my friend, whose MIL this is, that it can indeed be quite challenging to be her DIL. Oh my!

[solobiker]

I don't really argue with her at all, and she is still pretty young, 65 y/o. She is just stuck in her ways which is fine because I am sure I am too The good thing is DH's work is having their Christmas party tonight so we get a night out for just the 2 of us...so to speak. Yeah!!

[Selkie]

Like Zen, I don't enjoy houseguests. One of the advantages of having a small house is being able to say, "we'd love to have you stay, but we just don't have the room!" Our three big dogs - who have the run of the place and not always the best manners - also serve as a deterrent.

My late MIL wasn't a fan of mine and tried to take over any time she visited. It's the usual "alpha female" phenomena, a battle I refused to engage in. They "helped" us move to our first house and you can only imagine what happened. She had the audacity to "set up" my kitchen for me when DH and I were out running errands. By the time they left, DH and I were physically and emotionally exhausted.

She and DH's father disliked all the spouses whom their children married. I didn't take it personally.

Good luck to you during the visit. Just focus on the fact that you're doing it for your DH and it's just temporary.

[Miranda]

A MONTH... sweet bageebaus...

I heard this thread loud and clear. There is a lot I could say, but probably the best is here comes some good calming Karma.

[Zen]

I may have an idea.

Plan something special to do after they leave
Remember the advent calendars you got as a kid to countdown to christmas? Get one of those but change the dates

[solobiker]

I may have an idea.

Plan something special to do after they leave
Remember the advent calendars you got as a kid to countdown to christmas? Get one of those but change the dates

I like that idea. We have been so busy working on our house and now with his parents in town we have not had a chance to go play up in the mountains. Hopefully we can go up the weekend after they leave, although I am on-call on Saturday. I also have to work on Christmas which right now does not seem too bad. It will get me out of the house.

[Blueberry]

You know it's bad when you're looking forward to work just to get out of the house. Been there, done that! That trip to the mountains sounds like just the ticket! Maybe make it a long weekend after your work on Saturday??

CA