Please help..MIL in town

[Blueberry]

I feel for you too. There are bad MIL's out there. My DH really doesn't have any contact with his parents (long story), but when he did, it wasn't fun. I remember his mother showed up at my house on graduation day at 6:00 in the morning (because she thought she'd get an early start on the day - after telling us to expect her about 9) and expected me to fix her breakfast, tea, etc, etc ("what do you have to do to get someone to bring you food around here?"). I made her the center of attention (her goal), and made it "her" day. She was happy. I barely had time to get myself dressed and ready for graduation (and deal with the fact that my mom decided it would be a great idea for my dad to ride to the ceremony with my step-dad).

CA

[Irulan]

LOL

Does it really matter if the turkey is upside down or not?

Actually it does because the timing on roasting it is really different from regular roasting.

[Blueberry]

I'm gonna have to try this upside down turkey thing

[Irulan]

I'm gonna have to try this upside down turkey thing

Seriously, it will be the most moist turkey you've ever had.

[Grog]

Since we're talking about MILs..... something I find desperately funny (because it's not my MIL).

I was briefly in touch with ThisWoman recently who's the MIL of a friend of mine, and we're talking about her other son, whom I know as well.

She said: "You know I was very disappointed when my son (ThisGuy) left ThisGirl [another friend of mine], I liked her so much. After that he dated ThisOtherGirl which I liked too, but he left her as well. I've decided that I will never again become attached to a girl my son is involved with, and he'll probably end up with a girl I don't like anyway."

Speak of a positive, flexible, resilient attitude.

I know from my friend, whose MIL this is, that it can indeed be quite challenging to be her DIL. Oh my!

[solobiker]

I don't really argue with her at all, and she is still pretty young, 65 y/o. She is just stuck in her ways which is fine because I am sure I am too The good thing is DH's work is having their Christmas party tonight so we get a night out for just the 2 of us...so to speak. Yeah!!

[Selkie]

Like Zen, I don't enjoy houseguests. One of the advantages of having a small house is being able to say, "we'd love to have you stay, but we just don't have the room!" Our three big dogs - who have the run of the place and not always the best manners - also serve as a deterrent.

My late MIL wasn't a fan of mine and tried to take over any time she visited. It's the usual "alpha female" phenomena, a battle I refused to engage in. They "helped" us move to our first house and you can only imagine what happened. She had the audacity to "set up" my kitchen for me when DH and I were out running errands. By the time they left, DH and I were physically and emotionally exhausted.

She and DH's father disliked all the spouses whom their children married. I didn't take it personally.

Good luck to you during the visit. Just focus on the fact that you're doing it for your DH and it's just temporary.