Please help..MIL in town

[tulip]

I feel for you Solobiker. My ex MIL would come stay with us from Europe, not for a month (she would split her time with her daughter), but even a few days would put me in a really bad mood.

It helped me to realize that I could not change or control what she did, but I COULD control my reaction to her. That helped me alot.

A month is a long time. Is there a class or an activity that they could sign up for?

[ginny]

the NY Times posted an oped about "what Shamu taught me about a happy marriage" in 2006 (I believe)... lemme see if I can find it: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html well, that was easy... anyway, read it - it's funny, and it may help with the MIL and the husband . One of the methods I employ with my SO when he hovers ridiculously close when I am cooking is: here's the lettuce, tomatos, blah blah, would you mind making a salad... or I put snacks out for him... AWAY from where I'm cooking. At the very least, it's a bit of comic relief. Good luck - maybe you should hit the rum and egg nog

[Blueberry]

I feel for you too. There are bad MIL's out there. My DH really doesn't have any contact with his parents (long story), but when he did, it wasn't fun. I remember his mother showed up at my house on graduation day at 6:00 in the morning (because she thought she'd get an early start on the day - after telling us to expect her about 9) and expected me to fix her breakfast, tea, etc, etc ("what do you have to do to get someone to bring you food around here?"). I made her the center of attention (her goal), and made it "her" day. She was happy. I barely had time to get myself dressed and ready for graduation (and deal with the fact that my mom decided it would be a great idea for my dad to ride to the ceremony with my step-dad).

CA

[Irulan]

LOL

Does it really matter if the turkey is upside down or not?

Actually it does because the timing on roasting it is really different from regular roasting.

[Blueberry]

I'm gonna have to try this upside down turkey thing

[Irulan]

I'm gonna have to try this upside down turkey thing

Seriously, it will be the most moist turkey you've ever had.

[Grog]

Since we're talking about MILs..... something I find desperately funny (because it's not my MIL).

I was briefly in touch with ThisWoman recently who's the MIL of a friend of mine, and we're talking about her other son, whom I know as well.

She said: "You know I was very disappointed when my son (ThisGuy) left ThisGirl [another friend of mine], I liked her so much. After that he dated ThisOtherGirl which I liked too, but he left her as well. I've decided that I will never again become attached to a girl my son is involved with, and he'll probably end up with a girl I don't like anyway."

Speak of a positive, flexible, resilient attitude.

I know from my friend, whose MIL this is, that it can indeed be quite challenging to be her DIL. Oh my!

[solobiker]

I don't really argue with her at all, and she is still pretty young, 65 y/o. She is just stuck in her ways which is fine because I am sure I am too The good thing is DH's work is having their Christmas party tonight so we get a night out for just the 2 of us...so to speak. Yeah!!