What a timely thread, as I'm pondering these issues myself. I'm 39 and getting increasingly serious with a man who is younger than me. We've started to discuss our future and, clearly, my ever-decreasing fertility is a major issue. I've long felt ambivalent about having kids, but now that I'm in a loving relationship, I've started to think about having one. That decision, which is complicated enough as is, is further complicated by the fact that my BF is not under the same biological exigency that I'm under. We have a lot to think about and a lot to discuss. It's not going to be easy.