on being a mom

[shootingstar]

I have 17 neices and nephews. I'm totally at peace and OK with my decision. DH is too. I think whatever happens is supposed to happen. I'm kind of a believer in fate. Good or bad things happen for reasons, and if it's supposed to be, it'll be. ........................

I guess there were no words of wisdom, but wanted you to know you're certainly not alone.

Wow, so many nieces and nephews. Kinda of rare these days..at least in North America. But Tri, it is an enormous blessing to be part of large extended family. I do believe for mentally sound people, it's helpful to have exposure to children in different ways, when one is childless. Just keeps one's perspective in balance.

I do tend to believe in fate if children becomes or does not become part of one's own family. I don't really at all understand nor support the whole idea of a woman having a child /baby just herself without any partner from the beginning of birth...where she deliberately gets pregnant just to have a child for herself. If life circumstances are such that a woman did want a child but did not meet the right guy, and later can no longer conceive, then she must reconcile those feelings over time. Just my opinion.

On the rare occasion I have mused aloud to him, well what would baby look like with my Asian black hair, etc. and his blue eyes, longer nose.

It's ok , my curiosity is satisfied I think I sorta know what the physiological end result of the union would look like ...2 of my brothers-in-law who are also fathers, have blue eyes.