Roadside memorials-better driving

[badger]

I've also heard that memorials tend to distract drivers and may pose a risk for them to get in accidents themselves.

[bmccasland]

Yeah, but I had trouble driving past one on the Beeline highway for a DPS officer I used to work with who was killed in the line of duty. (The "beeline" is a particular highway in AZ that's the escape route for people from Phoenix to get to the cool mountains.) For a while I wouldn't even drive that road.

[Aggie_Ama]

I put very little thought into them myself. In Texas there are small white crosses for a death. Usually they are not very flashy but sometimes they do become tacky grounds for litter that was once part of the memorial. I tend to agree they often become eyesores.

My own mother has a view of graves, she has never been to her father's grave except to show me once and he died in 1982. She says "I said everything to him in life that needed to be said and miss him terribly but I have nothing to say to a stone. No regrets, no need to see him, he isn't there to me." She feels cemetaries are weird and constant visiting just born from regret. I am not criticizing anyone who does but I agree with her. I have been to the graves of some of the closest people I have lost graves once after the funerals. Honestly I felt nothing, not sad, not reflective so I guess I don't get memorials either.

I want to be cremated because I watched graves being moved to make a new highway. At least if you aren't buried you cannot be disturbed.