Dear friends who are going through relationship troubles (hereafter known as Jack and Jill):

I'm very sorry that you're having such a difficult time in your relationship right now. I can only imagine how hurt and angry you both feel right now. But please don't trap DH and I in the middle of this. We're friends with you both, and want to remain friends. Please don't make us choose sides.

Jill, it really hurt my feelings when you told me that, since DH and I were Jack's friends first, you plan to disconnect from all of the people who were part of your life together, including us. Clearly you don't value our friendship- we're just people to call when bad stuff happens (like right now). Nothing like being used....

Jack, I don't even know what to say to you. I feel like I don't know the real you. I certainly didn't expect to hear much of what I've heard, from both you and Jill.