Sundial-
It's been just about a year now since I told my controlling bullying angry brother that I no longer want in my my life, period. It was not a decision I made lightly.
It's been wonderful not having to deal with his brief visits or hear his voice when i pick up the phone anymore. Hopefully he will eventually get some serious therapy and make changes that will make it possible to establish a sibling relationship again. I'm not holding my breath though.
I have a delightful happy relationship with my other brother, who is completely different and a wonderful person.
Sometimes it's just not worth having destructive hurtful thoughtless people in your life, no matter who they are.