I can see both sides of the issue of men and women being 'different'.
That's not always a bad thing. If we think they are insensitive, they probably think we are overly sensitive and take things too personally. Men tend to speak more directly without first analyzing the various possible effects it might have on us. In turn, we tend to take everything to heart and feel hurt when perhaps we'd feel healthier just not taking some comments seriously.

Yes, they 'should' be more sensitive and encouraging. And yes, we 'should' be less sensitive and more self confident. We all just fumble along as best we can, and we're lucky in this world when we can say we have 'loved ones' at all.


I didn't mean to make DH sound so ogre-like. He really is a great guy. He just has funny ideas about how to motivate me. My self-esteem is a little fragile, and he doesn't really know what to say to keep me going. He's the type who responds to criticism by trying harder. I need more positive input than he does.
This puts it in perspective pretty nicely I think.