words that make you grit your teeth

[Kimmyt]

Oooh, the last name thing got me.

I hate, absolutely HATE when someone addresses a woman as Mrs. John Hislastname.

Hate it to the point where I will ask the woman in question when she changed her name to John.

I do not understand why, if a woman so chooses to take her husband's name, she then is referred to by his first name. Isn't his last name enough? She can't even keep that bit of her own identity??

[TsPoet]

Oooh, the last name thing got me.

I hate, absolutely HATE when someone addresses a woman as Mrs. John Hislastname.

Hate it to the point where I will ask the woman in question when she changed

The floor I work on has two groups and managers of those groups are on either end, they are also married, I'll call them Brian and Karla Smith. I once heard a high level person in the company introduce a group of people to several of my coworkers, as "This is Dr Jones, and this is Dr Smith, and this is Mrs Smith". Karla is also a PhD.
I was furious. Karla did nothing, but I don't know what she could have done.
I was standing there, and I wasn't introduced at all, but that didn't make me nearly as angry as Karla not getting the same respect as the two guys there at the time.

[ilima]

The floor I work on has two groups and managers of those groups are on either end, they are also married, I'll call them Brian and Karla Smith. I once heard a high level person in the company introduce a group of people to several of my coworkers, as "This is Dr Jones, and this is Dr Smith, and this is Mrs Smith". Karla is also a PhD.
I was furious. Karla did nothing, but I don't know what she could have done.
I was standing there, and I wasn't introduced at all, but that didn't make me nearly as angry as Karla not getting the same respect as the two guys there at the time.

My dissertation advisor & her husband both graduated from Wisconsin. She said the alumni mail sent to her husband is addressed as Dr. while hers is Mrs. She laughed about it, but she was a bit chuffed about it, too.

Karla's hubby or the other person should have taken the opportunity to refer to her as Dr. So-and-so.

[Aggie_Ama]

I hate, absolutely HATE when someone addresses a woman as Mrs. John Hislastname.

I don't mind getting mail addressed to Mrs. C. XXXX but if you called me it I would reply, "My first name is Amanda".