Oooh, the last name thing got me.

I hate, absolutely HATE when someone addresses a woman as Mrs. John Hislastname.

Hate it to the point where I will ask the woman in question when she changed her name to John.

I do not understand why, if a woman so chooses to take her husband's name, she then is referred to by his first name. Isn't his last name enough? She can't even keep that bit of her own identity??