Egos and Lack of Preparation

[LBTC]

DJ - sending butterflies to him right now so he has a safe return, and to you to feel calm and trusting of the universe. It's so difficult to be worried about someone you love and have them not listen.

Do you ride? Do you two ride together? Can you fit it into your schedules so you can ride with him on shorter rides more often - maybe do the gradual build up together as an activity, and not even mention what your goal is? Have you talked to him about your concern? It's possible that a loving DH may ignore all the advice in the world from his family, but when his beautiful wife tells him she doesn't want to be a widow, it may melt his defences and you might talk him into having some tests just to reassure you.

Hugs and butterflies,
~T~

[mimitabby]

wow. Is he riding with other people? maybe you guys should join a riding club/group. People learn from each other; maybe it will help?

[Mr. Bloom]

Deb,

The problem with men is that we remember our abilities at the "high water mark" of our twenties.

It's not that we can't face our mortality...it's our decay that we can't face. The more people confront us with issues of decay and mortality, the more we tune them out.

Work in unison with his brother to encourage him to get tested.

For me, the first wake-up call came when I didn't qualify for the "preferred rate" on life insurance. No one said "you shouldn't do this", they simply said "you don't qualify for that rate anymore"...me? Not qualify? Well, I'll show you!!!