This is a helpful thread. My last ride I decided DH and I should ride together- a bit of company is nice, right? He's inherently stronger than me and has been able to ride more- he's on sabbatical and I was having issues finding a saddle I could stand. He's been doing 30 mile rides (and when he exercises, he's insanely driven) and I'm about to keel over at about 10-12 miles. So this last ride was probably the least relaxing bike ride I've ever been on- either watching him power away from me with ease (and never look back) or when he wants to let me set the (snaily) pace, all I hear behind me is the ratchet of him coasting whilst I'm pedaling my tush off. I guess I just need to go out alone since he can't just spin and enjoy it.