A few years ago I was really going through a rough patch. My mom and I are very close so she knew how bad I was feeling about my life at the time. One day we were talking and she told me something funny.... She told me to visual sticking my relatvie stressing me out, personal stress and even my well meaning friends stressing me out in my trunk. Then leave them there for the day and go on about my business. It was a funny visualization but it worked just mentally locking out the stressers in my life. We also have an expression that we will now flush the pity pot after we are done ranting or whining.