3. I ride clipless but my DH says that it is a problem that I unclip with both feet and not just one at each intersection. (fell a few times so now I always completely unclip).
What the heck? Is what he is really saying that he's afraid you won't get going in time to get across the intersection, and be left behind or stuck at the light? In that case, move to the front of the pack at the lights, be johnny-on-the-spot while the light is changing, and hurry it up getting mounted and across. Make sure you're in a good gear for taking off before you get to the light, too.
4. I haven't figured out how to stand and pedal going up hills. DH says that might be a problem when tackling the 3 sisters.
You can always walk 'em. Then you'll be standing. No, but seriously, if they can't wait for you to attempt the hill either spinning up slowly or walking, then it's not a no-drop ride for folks, and you probably shouldn't be doing that one. Find a no-drop ride.

Being able to stand up on the pedals was a matter of upper body strength for me. I couldn't do it last season (felt scared like I was going to pitch over the bars), but 6 months of boot camp changed all that. Now I stand without even thinking about it.


5. My rides usually consist of 20-30 miles at 13.5-14.5 MPH avg.
Sounds like me on a group ride. You're faster by yourself than I am when I ride alone. Groups make me go faster.

Karen