I'm reading all of these messages and taking them to heart, because my older sister is coming out for a visit, and I think she may not have very long from her breast cancer, and just hasn't told me. We aren't very close; I was in the army for 20 years so wasn't around, and by the time I retired she had moved out of state, so we've seen each other maybe once a year. My mom made a comment that this may be the last time we see her alive, so I feel like they aren't telling us siblings the whole story. She had her first mammogram at 50, and they found stage 4 breast cancer- removed a lot of lymph nodes and she's had a mastectomy, chemo, and radiation. Recently they found cancer in her spine, so she is still have some treatments. She is coming to visit for a couple of months since they have said she is "terminal" and can't work any more. She is kinda like a stranger to me, but I will be able to see her every weekend while she is here. I will probably treat her normally, since I don't know if she's been given any time frame or anything. They did say she can't travel much, but this is my first experience with cancer, I guess I'll just follow the conversation and if she talks about it I'll listen. She found out last year, and that was around the time I got my first bike, and rode in a breast cancer ride for her.
vickie