I'm sorry to hear of this Aggie.

I have no advice just a story ..there is abit of cycling here.

One of my brothers-in-law had a brother who succumbed to cancer of the larynx at 40 yrs. Yes, he did smoke. Memory is of him jokingly having a cigarette hanging from his mouth for a short few min. while we were cycling in a 4-day group trip ride. I think we all rode 350 kms. on that trip.

He had chemo for 2 years. He actually remained very private with his family. My brother-in-law held his brother's hand in the hospital when he died. Then my brother-in-law went home to tell his parents.

The celebration of his life at his funeral did feature photos of that seminal group bike ride.

A sibling...is really in the end, in most cases, a friend...for life.