I went totally gray in my 30s, and once a month I have my sylist cut and color it. He just does the roots (although periodically pulls it through) and with good products my hair is quite healthy. I feel more attractive when my hair is colored. Its no different than purchasing attractive clothes, or exercising to maintain an attractive physique. I do it because it suits me, it gives me pleasure. Would I do it if it meant not having resources to educate my kids? No, but I can afford it and meet my obligations so I do.