wow, some great ideas here, thanks all!

dying the dress black is a spectacular idea! didn't even think of it! i wonder if i can do that...gonna check into it today. the style is more bearable than the color...

also gonna hit my least favorite of places today...the mall. just to see what's out there.

i think i'll stay away from the tux...this time, at least. it would be so much easier to be a guy sometimes!

i'll keep you all posted. thanks again!

p.s. this is a helpful resource on wedding attire ettiquite: http://www.wtnh.com/Global/story.asp?S=8387431