totally OT: do i have to wear a black dress to a black tie wedding?

[limewave]

This thread is bringing back an embarassing fashion faux I committed. I wore a very short black dress to my bf (now dh) sister's wedding in June, outside, by the lake, midmorning. Black was the last thing I should have worn. But, I had just gotten this dress and I really wanted to wear it, so I did, but I was REALLY out of place. At the time, I had only been seeing bf for about a month. The dress was so short I could hardly sit down without showing too much What WAS I thinking?

Then, to make things worse, that evening I was helping clean up after the reception and while flirting with bf (now dh) I started a little splashing war. My now father-in-law actually started YELLING at me and asked me to leave

It was a horrible weekend. I was so embarassed.

[ikkin]

thanks for all the responses so far!

so.... the only dress I have is this horrible floor length "rouge iridescent chiffon" number that my friend made her bridesmaids get for her wedding in january.

despite having to spend nearly $400 on the darn thing, i HATE it and was hoping to never wear it again. however, i'm loathe to buy another dress for this black tie affair.

sooo...would the "rouge iridescent chiffon" look totally out of place? it's fairly simple, has spaghetti straps and an A-line. the fabric and color is not my style, but whatever.

i just don't want to be the only woman not wearing black....this is the four seasons in DC, after all.

[ny biker]

..this is the four seasons in DC, after all.

Don't let that overwhelm you. Plenty of people around here don't know how to dress. And I've stayed at a Four Seasons (in Seattle), so clearly they let any old riff-raff in the door...

[Blueberry]

I think the chiffon would be lovely. Perhaps some special shoes or a wrap might make it more your style? (for the record, it wouldn't be my style either...)

CA

[shootingstar]

so.... the only dress I have is this horrible floor length "rouge iridescent chiffon" number that my friend made her bridesmaids get for her wedding in january.

despite having to spend nearly $400 on the darn thing, i HATE it and was hoping to never wear it again. however, i'm loathe to buy another dress for this black tie affair.

sooo...would the "rouge iridescent chiffon" look totally out of place? it's fairly simple, has spaghetti straps and an A-line. the fabric and color is not my style, but whatever. .

Unless you cut the dress shorter and wear a dressy jacket on top. I'm only suggesting jacket because you said the colour doesn't quite complement you.

[evangundy]

thanks for all the responses so far!
so.... the only dress I have is this horrible floor length "rouge iridescent chiffon" number that my friend made her bridesmaids get for her wedding in january.

Maybe you can dye the dress a different color? Maybe black? Would you like the style of the dress if the color was different? I wonder if the iridescent effect would still come thru? Changing the length and maybe putting something over it could change it enough too. A black mesh tunic or something sheer and sparkly, or sheer and floral????? For example, like something from this page:
http://www.wmsclothing.com/cgi-bin/c...scarves_shawls

Let us know what you end up doing.
Edna

[Trek420]

How about a tux? That's black tie, no? Maybe not with tails, we don't want to upstage the groom.

[ikkin]

wow, some great ideas here, thanks all!

dying the dress black is a spectacular idea! didn't even think of it! i wonder if i can do that...gonna check into it today. the style is more bearable than the color...

also gonna hit my least favorite of places today...the mall. just to see what's out there.

i think i'll stay away from the tux...this time, at least. it would be so much easier to be a guy sometimes!

i'll keep you all posted. thanks again!

p.s. this is a helpful resource on wedding attire ettiquite: http://www.wtnh.com/Global/story.asp?S=8387431

[ikkin]

boo...despite the hefty price tag and designer label, the fabulous rouge iridescent (aka, wet blood red) chiffon number is made of cheap polyester (again, WHY did i have to pay $400 for this thing? girls, please don't do this to your bridesmaids!) so i can't dye it. bummer.

now i'm thinking i can wear my little black cocktail dress and accessorize the crap out of it...maybe that'll work. if i'm totally underdressed, whatever. we barely know anyone at this wedding anyway.

stay tuned...

[Blueberry]

The last 6:00 wedding I went to, I wore a black dress...and bright pink heels Seemed to set the right tone - and I got lots of complements.

CA

[Wahine]

Ikkin - I don't keep a lot of formal clothing in my wardrobe and for the most part, I don't like to dress up. So... I've often relied on the kindness of my more girlie-girl friends to get me out of these tight spots. Do you have a friend that is about the same size as you that will let you raid her closet? Also, if you have a really nice skirt and blouse, that will work. It doesn't have to be a dress, it just has to be more formal. I've gone to several fancy weddings with a black skirt, fabulous shoes and a nice, brightly coloured top.

[shootingstar]

Herer's black dress with shawl wrap. Remember, my partner was/is father of the groom. I am the 2nd woman in his life. So I should be careful not to look too..you know..

I did remove the shawl for intervals... yea, can't you tell, I'm a cyclist...

[pll]

Herer's black dress with shawl wrap. Remember, my partner was/is father of the groom. I am the 2nd woman in his life. So I should be careful not to look too..you know..

I did remove the shawl for intervals... yea, can't you tell, I'm a cyclist...

That picture reminded me of this t-shirt: http://flirtees.ca/page7.html (a cyclist? where? )

[shootingstar]

Some great cute cycling designs there!

http://flirtees.ca/index.html

Thx, for the link!

[pll]

Some great cute cycling designs there!

http://flirtees.ca/index.html

Thx, for the link!

I think Brandi posted it a while back. They are cute.