Liz;
I think I'm on my 6th saddle..bless my LBS guy, JP - he's been so patient. I've done selle SMP pro, SMP Evolution, Selle Lady Gel Flow, Terry Damselfly, Bontrager something or other. My original Fizik Vitesse was fine for sit bones, but I was having soft tissue numbness etc. The SMP Pro was beautiful on soft tissue, they have never been so happy, but wasn't on my sitbones and the bones I was sitting on did not respond to two good weeks of riding. I just felt that saddle was a bit too wide as well.
Rode 70k yesterday with a San Marco Aspide Glamour (who thinks up these names?) It has a small cut out. Was good for sit bones, though my butt started to be a bit uncomfortable at about 2 hours and the labia were mildly complaining about pressure, but no numbness. Didn't hurt when I went to the bathroom (another good sign) So I was guilty of a bit of scooching around. I think I'll try this out for a few more rides. I may try a Specialized Jett, though my LBS doesn't deal with Specialized products. I will get it elsewhere and get my coach to fit it for me. He's promised to sell it for me if it doesn't work.
I just hate going into the shop to say,,"Hey this doesn't work." (again!) But I also have given them very good business, so at the end of it all, I may buy the saddle there and give JP a bottle of scotch for being such a patient guy.
So keep trying, (and I will too!) there's got to be the perfect saddle out there....
"You can't get what you want till you know what you want." Joe Jackson
2006 Cannondale Feminine/Ultegra/Jett
2012 Trek Speed Concept 9.5/Ultegra/saddle TBD